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General Personal Development

It’s Good to Feel Bad: Here’s Why

April 21, 2020

Many of our freedoms have been taken away from us. It's hard to change the way life has always been. We are always free to choose how we feel and react to things that come our way in life.

Freedom- is it always a given?

Seems a lot of what we always felt like were permanent things in life have recently been taken from us.

Our freedom to shop, to send our kids to school, to go out to eat or travel… GONE.

Who would’ve ever guessed we’d be where we are today and deal with what we’re dealing with on a global level?

Not me.

I don’t like having my freedom taken from me.

It’s uncomfortable and challenging.

I don’t think I’m alone.

Yesterday we learned our kids would not be going back to school this year. That makes for a total of 24 weeks at home- probably the longest in the history of our modern day school system.

There was a large part of me that wanted to cry and mourn our losses.

I felt the pain of my child who was graduating from elementary school, she’d been looking forward to her cap and gown. I let tears shed for my children who were supposed to perform in school musicals and variety shows. I mourned for the seniors that would not have a normal graduation or finish to their school years. I mourned my own time freedom to do what I needed to do during the day, etc. etc.

I let myself feel the pain and allowed my kids to express it as well.

Feel Free to Express & Allow Your Feelings

It’s healthy and good to allow each of our emotions to go through us and not label them as good or bad.

They are what they are and each emotion is necessary to experience our humanness. (anyone seen Inside Out?).

Allowing ourselves to feel what we feel without labeling it or beating ourselves up for not acting the way “we should be feeling” is healthy. When we feel guilty for feeling, it makes our situation worse.

We are always entitled to our feelings.

They are an emotional guidance system that allow us to learn and grow.

When we tap into our feelings and ask ourselves WHY we feel a certain way, we can have breakthroughs and find joy on even the tough parts of our journey.

We are free to feel how we want to feel in any given situation. No judgment, guilt, shame or shoulding is necessary.

If we don’t allow our feelings to flow and go through us, they often get stuck.

Stuck feelings (or trapped energy) cause illness and disease. Dis-ease in all its forms causes us more pain in the long run. It can be harder to cure and much more painful if we bottle it up or pretend it doesn’t exist.

It’s so much easier to allow ourselves to feel NOW and not put off our healing for “someday.”

Feeling Your Feelings Is Cause for Celebration

So what did my family and I do after feeling the frustration and sadness? We decided to celebrate…

Why?

In one of my favorite books, Mans Search for Meaning, Viktor Frankl, a Jew that experienced the concentration camps and had EVERYTHING taken from him said…

“Man can have everything taken from him but his ability to choose how he will react.” (I’m paraphrasing).

If someone that had his family, his livelihood, home and all possessions taken from him and still choose to see the good in life…
SO CAN I!

Today and every day I choose to celebrate:

  • I have music/movies to listen too/watch.
  • I can play with my kids (a lot).
  • I have food to eat and people to shop for me!
  • I am healthy and getting stronger both physically and mentally.
  • I have indoor plumbing and a roof over my head.
  • I am learning about myself and growing new skills.
  • I can train my brain to throw negativity in the trash and use that trash for the benefit of others.
  • AND SO MUCH MORE!!!

We always have a choice. We always have freedom.

When things seem down and hard and depressing, it’s okay to feel that pain and allow it to pass through us.

If we don’t, often our unfelt or buried feelings manifest in pain and turmoil in the future.

 

If You’d Like Help Moving Through Your Feelings

I know what it’s like to bury feelings and have them come up years later. I have worried myself sick before, and even had to have surgery from emotional baggage I hadn’t allowed to come to the surface.

It’s time to learn how to feel without judgement or ridicule.

Our feelings can be our guides to freedom.

If you’d like help:

  • Feeling more happiness, peace, and self-acceptance
  • Working through your fears and judgments
  • Moving outside your comfort zone and into your flow
  • Finding your superpowers and fearlessly letting them shine

My husband and I would love to have you join our new Facebook group!  Join the Group Here

We are also hosting a Free 5-Day Challenge to help others ask the hard questions and become more self-aware and accepting of who they are. You can join that here: The Journey Within Challenge

What do you choose to feel today?

Many of our freedoms have been taken away from us. It's hard to change the way life has always been. We are always free to choose how we feel and react to things that come our way in life.

Many of our freedoms have been taken away from us. It's hard to change the way life has always been. We are always free to choose how we feel and react to things that come our way in life.


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